i take the viewpoint that men and women want similar things. its just our social programming which makes us behave in different ways. as a guy growing up its kool to have had sex with many women, or even have sex. if you havent then you feel you need to do something about it. i dont know whether this is the same for women growing up. but this is the kind of social programming im talking about. unfortunately pua gurus use this as a marketing tactic to chase an outcome. and the smokescreen is basically "this is helping guys to become better men" and "we are trying to give women what they really want - even though they dont know what they want themselves" and ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ like that.
a better complete focus for men would be - why do we want women? what do we want with a woman? what is a woman to me? thus allowing guys to know what they want rather than just skipping these important steps.
finally i dont understand how pua is a skill. take dancing for example. i was completely without self confidence at this at one point. once i learnt the moonwalk and forced myself to dance in front of a group of people (while i was completely drunk btw) people started to think i was amazing. now if someone asks me are you a good dancer id know that i am with great confidence. with pua though - what skill are you learning? because in pua the emphasis is on personality, and so are u learning how to fake who you are or put on an act so that you get your result - confidence with women? thats the problem with the community - i dont agree with teaching how to be confident with another human being. i think its better to teach how to be confident in yourself as a person. however when your learning these things, if your aim is to be confident with women, i think you miss the point. but i guess thats what my experiences have taught me and each to his own
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