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Strongsloth · 01-05-2009, 09:03 AM

Hi

Based on my (1 person's) experience I would say that the single most important thing is that you are unhurried, relaxed and confident. If you are then you have little to worry about. The encounter will just move smoothly from kissing onto things which I would never mention in a public forum. It all comes naturally because it is natural.

It's rather like giving a speech in public. It's not at all hard to do a passable job if you are relaxed. The big enemies are nervousness and fear.

Most of the talk about the necessity of long, complicated and sophisticated sexual techniques is overdone. Hopefully in later sessions you will move on to those and enjoy the experiences, but they are not essential first time. If you just do the basic things combined with a good measure of hugging and kissing before and after it will be well enjoyed on both sides.

Regarding talking, I would say. Essential during the lead up. Best avoided during the physically intimate parts. Much appreciated after.

Personally I have given up drinking, but if alcohol is involved it will be a lot better if you are less drunk than she is.

The other big factor is that you are with someone you genuinely like and are attracted to. When it comes to sexual satisfaction what you do might make a bit of difference but it is nothing compared to who you are doing it with.

01-05-2009, 09:03 AM	#12 (permalink)
Strongsloth Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 8	Ramblings on first time sex Hi Based on my (1 person's) experience I would say that the single most important thing is that you are unhurried, relaxed and confident. If you are then you have little to worry about. The encounter will just move smoothly from kissing onto things which I would never mention in a public forum. It all comes naturally because it is natural. It's rather like giving a speech in public. It's not at all hard to do a passable job if you are relaxed. The big enemies are nervousness and fear. Most of the talk about the necessity of long, complicated and sophisticated sexual techniques is overdone. Hopefully in later sessions you will move on to those and enjoy the experiences, but they are not essential first time. If you just do the basic things combined with a good measure of hugging and kissing before and after it will be well enjoyed on both sides. Regarding talking, I would say. Essential during the lead up. Best avoided during the physically intimate parts. Much appreciated after. Personally I have given up drinking, but if alcohol is involved it will be a lot better if you are less drunk than she is. The other big factor is that you are with someone you genuinely like and are attracted to. When it comes to sexual satisfaction what you do might make a bit of difference but it is nothing compared to who you are doing it with.