*tintin gets the heebie-jeebies*
i too know a girl like your frend here she had some issues wi her guy n wud discuss it ad nauseum.upon being offered advice she wu do a turn about.sucked me dry.but after i examined my own motives (i want to "help her" which was coming from ego)n realized my part in this very unhealthy energy exchange which was "helping" neither her nor me i communicated that to her.i felt not only drained but as if im being taken for a ride.with her hand firmly on my pulse knowing that im pretty gullible when it comes to seeing her hurt.and i called out the fraud.
without communicating my pay off
maybe i cuda been more honest.focusing more on my own motives than hers.and cudv avoided the bitter aftertaste(for her)
as in 'i feel that i get an ego boost each time you tell me your problems'
or
'i feel that your talking about your problems with me adds to them rather than provides any good conclusion'
or
'just wondering if listening to yr self esteem issues im avoiding my own'
'iv decided that where our frendship stands as of today is not friendship at all.the ultimate good of the other is not even a priority.its like blind leading the blind'
but ofcourse i din say any of those
i simply told her to stop draining me.
and she went kinda crazy with th rejection.
all said and done.im glad i stopped the parasitic exchange.