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Originally Posted by Megan  Raising children involves self-sacrifice.
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As I said, children are the ultimate reality check. |
Children and having a love life aren't mutually exclusive. Just ask any single parent. It's more challenging, and of course, the children come first (and sometimes, the children come ONLY), and often suitors are screened more carefully on their suitability for the family unit, but
most single parents don't, as far as I know, give up dating and sex until their kids turn 18.
So if being a single parent doesn't mean giving up a love life, how much less does this argument apply here? There's *another* parent in the picture. (you want to argue about the burden of parenting falling in an unbalanced manner on Erin? That's another topic entirely, and entirely theoretical as it hasn't happened yet.)
As to poly taking Steve away from his kids. It could happen. Equally likely is that it won't. I once dated a lovely poly man, a father of an 6-year old boy. We were having trouble scheduling time for a date, so I suggested that he come over & bring his kid & we could watch one of my Muppet Show VHS tapes. (I *love* the muppets. My inner child isn't very inner.)
The gentleman was very appreciative of the offer. The kid loved my tapes. And all three of us had a very nice afternoon snuggling. And in none of this was a) the child neglected, or b) the child's mother imposed upon (on the contrary, she was able some work done with everyone else out of the house.)
It just seemed like all those "what about the children" entries deserved an answer.