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NDavid · 01-05-2009, 07:16 AM

Hi Sogno,

I agree with what the others said - Focus right now on understanding why you're reacting so strongly inside to all the bs. Ask yourself if there's any truth in the things she says or is she rattling you because your self esteem is low at the moment? (let me say straight up that I'm not knocking you or stating what the real problem is in any way man, I'm just throwing out a few ideas for you to consider). Just consider what part of yourself needs to be addressed to either change this situation or change your reaction to it.

On the subject of Polarising, I think it's extremely unlikely that she's a darkworker. A real darkworker is a very powerful and ambitious person, not the sort who would consider staying in a job where they're just an employee and they probably wouldn't waste time on idle gossip (unless it was quite beneficial in some way) because all their energy is focused on getting ahead and on aquiring more power. Here's an example that helped me, remember in the articles where Steve uses the analogy of an RPG and lightworkers and darkworkers were the only role playing characters and everyone else was a non playable character? Well, if you were the darkworker in the game, would you waste most of your game time beating up on the little routine enemies who give you little gain? Or would you focus your attention on the biggeer bosses and the biggest challenges that give you the greatest rewards/power/treasure/secret endings and all that jazz?

One last thing, it's hard try and understand yourself if all your energy is being spent on anger and frustration. While I mention it, it's also hard to understand someone if you have a preconcieved notion of them as being an evil darkworker soul sucking sith lord! :-). If you feel drained, try not to spend any (or at least minimise) time spent with her, that way you'll have a clearer mind with which to analyse everything, free from raging emotions and you'll be much clearer on what's actually happening and what action you'll take to sort out your problem.

Best of luck to you :-)

01-05-2009, 07:16 AM	#3 (permalink)
NDavid Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Sydney, Australia Posts: 105	Hi Sogno, I agree with what the others said - Focus right now on understanding why you're reacting so strongly inside to all the bs. Ask yourself if there's any truth in the things she says or is she rattling you because your self esteem is low at the moment? (let me say straight up that I'm not knocking you or stating what the real problem is in any way man, I'm just throwing out a few ideas for you to consider). Just consider what part of yourself needs to be addressed to either change this situation or change your reaction to it. On the subject of Polarising, I think it's extremely unlikely that she's a darkworker. A real darkworker is a very powerful and ambitious person, not the sort who would consider staying in a job where they're just an employee and they probably wouldn't waste time on idle gossip (unless it was quite beneficial in some way) because all their energy is focused on getting ahead and on aquiring more power. Here's an example that helped me, remember in the articles where Steve uses the analogy of an RPG and lightworkers and darkworkers were the only role playing characters and everyone else was a non playable character? Well, if you were the darkworker in the game, would you waste most of your game time beating up on the little routine enemies who give you little gain? Or would you focus your attention on the biggeer bosses and the biggest challenges that give you the greatest rewards/power/treasure/secret endings and all that jazz? One last thing, it's hard try and understand yourself if all your energy is being spent on anger and frustration. While I mention it, it's also hard to understand someone if you have a preconcieved notion of them as being an evil darkworker soul sucking sith lord! :-). If you feel drained, try not to spend any (or at least minimise) time spent with her, that way you'll have a clearer mind with which to analyse everything, free from raging emotions and you'll be much clearer on what's actually happening and what action you'll take to sort out your problem. Best of luck to you :-)