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AliB1959 · 01-04-2009, 07:05 PM

Girls have the same fears that guys do. We get just as uncomfortable in social situations and catch ourselves feeling suddenly out of our normal comfort zone and pull back.

I recommend calling her and have several ideas in mind for a get-together, such as something you love to do as a hobby - you can teach her a bit about it, plus you're in your comfort zone. Or a lunch/dinner and a movie, or hiking, biking, go to a local museum or nature walk. Stay away from alcohol, though; you don't need to it be okay.

Above all, be honest. If things get too quiet for you ask her what she's thinking about, and really listen - ask questions based on what she says!

Ask her about her hobbies, what she does with her down-time, where she goes to college and what she's studying and hopes to do with her degree, if she has long-term goals and what those are, why did she choose to go for that kind of work. Listening is key - ask questions based on what you learn about her. This will help you become comfortable and also help you decide if she is someone you truly want to spend your time with.

Dating can be a wonderful and fun adventure! Best wishes!

01-04-2009, 07:05 PM	#6 (permalink)
AliB1959 Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 192	Been there more than once... Girls have the same fears that guys do. We get just as uncomfortable in social situations and catch ourselves feeling suddenly out of our normal comfort zone and pull back. I recommend calling her and have several ideas in mind for a get-together, such as something you love to do as a hobby - you can teach her a bit about it, plus you're in your comfort zone. Or a lunch/dinner and a movie, or hiking, biking, go to a local museum or nature walk. Stay away from alcohol, though; you don't need to it be okay. Above all, be honest. If things get too quiet for you ask her what she's thinking about, and really listen - ask questions based on what she says! Ask her about her hobbies, what she does with her down-time, where she goes to college and what she's studying and hopes to do with her degree, if she has long-term goals and what those are, why did she choose to go for that kind of work. Listening is key - ask questions based on what you learn about her. This will help you become comfortable and also help you decide if she is someone you truly want to spend your time with. Dating can be a wonderful and fun adventure! Best wishes!