Yea, like Brutha, there's an idea coming out from evolutionary psychology that suggests that women wait to increase men's committment to the relationship, making them more likely to stick around, especially to take care of kids that may result. A lot of the things that's traditionally done in a relationship both increases the man's committment and less likely to walk away (sunk cost fallacy) and shows that he can provide, by offering food and by being able to spend money on things that have no "functional" value other than to look pretty.
All of that said, I do not believe that to be a component of conscious relationships. There can be the case of "easily gotten, less valued", however you can choose how much you value something and depending on everyone involved's goals, choosing to value a relationship highly is important, regardless of how much time has been invested. If you need to play games to get the other person to value you highly, and they don't just want to value their relationship highly...wrong person to be in a relationship with. The real test ends up being their actions. If their actions don't tell you they value you and your relationship...then no matter how much they say it, they're not congruent and not good to be in a relationship with.
So...find someone who's genuinely looking to share a part of their life with someone rather than going along becuase they don't like being lonely or because they feel society tells them to be out dating. Find someone conscious.
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