Hi,
I'm a 20-year-old guy with no relationship experience and very little contact to women.
Recently, I met a girl at a party. I'm very attracted to her. We had some drinks, intense eye contact, held hands and kissed. No big deal for most people, but an extraordinary situation for me.
But half an hour later, I got really apathetic: I was suddenly unable to continue conversation, did not seek further physical contact with her and felt no desire to ask for her phone number.
WTF? I went away to talk with other people and left the party soon thereafter.
Why did I sabotage myself? It could have to do with the fear of rejection and the fear of what other people will think. And I often experience such apathy when I drink alcohol. Furthermore, meeting a girl which apparently likes me is way out of my comfort zone!
I could find out her phone number and ask if she'd like to meet again. I'm very afraid to do that. It could be that I talk nonsense on the phone. Or that we meet and it will be boring. The problem is that we both aren't very talkative.
But I think that even if I mess up the phone call, it would still be a personal success. Not even trying to phone her would be cowardly.
What do you think about this?
What can I do to avoid such failure in the future?
Whatever you can tell me, I'm interested in it! Thanks for your attention.