You know, I was wondering if thinking about the things that I DO want is what is causing the relationship to fail. I had started doing that a while ago. I started focusing on all the things that I wanted in a partner. I was really trying to keep stay very positive about it, not dwell on the negative. It almost seemed like my husband and I started to drift apart even more. I think I am just going to keep on what I'm doing. I'm trying to stay really positive about the whole thing. I figure if I do that, then I can't go wrong.