I don't know about the experience on these forums because I'm new, but I do find what you're describing happens a lot in real life. People talk about a problem or feeling down about something, and well-intentioned others jump in with a solution or three.
This is fine but will often be met with the 'yes buts', the reason being that the person has usually been able to think of these solutions themselves already, or because the solution applies to the person suggesting it but isn't relevant to the person with the problem.
I think suggestions are fine, but I find that what I and others really need in a lot of cases is validation of how we're feeling, acknowledgement that this situation is difficult, and the belief that we'll be able to work it out.
Kind of like the Venus and Mars thing really
