Good stuff about the ego, I've been thinking along many of the same lines myself lately and I've dicovered that it's a big part of my social fears. By the tone of your post I'm assuming that you've read at least one of Eckhart Tolle's books, but if you haven't I think you'd benefit from picking one up (try A New Earth).
I've heard the argument so many times that introverts and the socially anxious don't have egos. That couldn't be further from the truth, the perceived 'niceness' is almost always a fabrication of their ego in order to please people and gain positive reactions. Most introverts, including myself, have massive egos and it is their efforts to maintain the ego, or the perception of themselves that forever lead to negative consequences.
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