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Originally Posted by steveo4  I'd be lying if I said that it filled the void caused by my lack of close relationships. |
That's just it. You're expecting a close relationship to fill the void that you feel right now, but it won't. The void is
not caused by the lack of a close relationship.
You're feeling a void because 'something' is missing and you've convinced yourself the something is a close relationship. Should you remain in this state and chance upon meeting someone who gets close to you, you'll find that the relationship changes your life, but there is still 'something' missing. Next, you may decide it's your job, so you change jobs. Then it's your house, your car, maybe another lover, etc. All the time you're looking for the 'something' thats missing and trying to find it on the outside.
What's missing is on the inside! What's missing is being grateful for who you are. If you can't be perfectly happy with yourself exactly as you are and exactly as you are not (i.e. currently without a girlfriend), then you won't be perfectly happy once you've acquired the thing you currently covet the most. You'll just start coveting something else to fill the void...
Here's another thing to consider: you're always broadcasting how you feel to everyone around you, all the time. Right now, what you're sending out is something akin to "I suck 'cause I don't have a girlfriend." Whether you like it or not, people pick up on that vibe and that includes the hot girl at the bar you'd like to approach...
Answer me this: how attractive do you think you are making yourself while broadcasting your "I suck" signal to the world? How would the world respond to you if, instead, you would walk around thinking "I am AWESOME"?
Try it. You might like it!
