Whew! Is it hot in here or is it just me?
I meant no harm, but I'm not surprised with the responses I got. Let's get down to business. If I'm lucky, I can destroy my reputation some more.
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Originally Posted by Subscreet  Funchy wasn't referring to you, he was referring to the forums as whole. |
Ha ha! You're right! I totally missed that one. I don't understand funchy's point taken in that context.
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Originally Posted by Subscreet Are you serious? There's little to no assumptions being made. Your thread title is "Frustrated with experience on these forums" and you go on to tell us why. Even if you didn't explicitly say "I am frustrated because..." it's implicit that that's the reason you're frustrated. |
I'm not frustrated because I think people are being condescending. I just think people's egos are a bit too involved. To be honest, I thought there would be much less ego on this message board before I started using it. I was really surprised.
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Originally Posted by Subscreet To be honest it seems like this is almost entirely a problem on your end. You're the one making assumptions about people's intentions and claiming they're easy to discern when that's just not true. You can't claim to know if a post is heart-felt or not because you're just reading text. You're missing a lot in the way of nonverbal language like body language and tone. Maybe you could post some more examples from other threads to support your point but right now it seems a bit weak. |
You're completely right that we're just reading text and things are hard to interpret. That is why many misinterpretations take place, and they are to be expected. It is entirely possible that the problem is only on my end. I have already posted one example, and more will not help. People will look at the examples with their own beliefs and shape them to fit their view.
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Originally Posted by jawillie People are being themselves, maybe you just don't like who they are? It seems like you often post about people doing things in ways YOU don't like. Why, and more importantly, HOW could we all do things in a way that pleases you? |
I don't want people to do things just for the sake of pleasing me. That's not important. I know everyone is not being themselves because I recently read a post where someone said that they were offering advice and pretending they had all the answers but they felt bad about it because in truth they had problems in their life. I'd rather not say who it is to protect the privacy of that person. If one person is not doing it, then it is impossible to say that everyone is being themselves. I don't like or dislike someone based on what they do. I love everyone. If you find that hard to believe, then don't believe it.
If I post about people doing things in ways that I don't like, I am completely unaware of it. If I'm doing this, I'm unconscious of this and need guidance in this area. Can you help me to understand and overcome this problem? Thank you.
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Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo It's not the first time someone posts in the social & relationships forum to complain about our way to post in here. But what exactly they don't like always is something else, how come?  |
I'm not complaining. I was seeing if anyone else felt the same way I did. If no one else feels this way, then I'm the one with the problem. I'm trying to bring more truth to my life and the lives of others. If I'm wrong, that's fine. If I'm right, that's fine. It doesn't matter who is right as long as we all grow from the experience.
Some of these responses have hostility in them. Yes they are just text, but the word choice, grammar, and punctuation reveal it. Ask yourself why there is anger there. Why do you need to tell me that I'm wrong? What is it inside of you that feels you have to defend yourself? When you find your answer, you find the ego. If posts like this help people to see that, then I will do more. Feel free to write anything you want. Damaging my reputation helps me to let go of my own ego. Thank you everyone for your responses, and I'm looking forward to more.