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Cultivate · 01-03-2009, 06:05 AM

Funchy, I entirely understand your viewpoint on PUAs because you see them as only being interested in sex. Obviously attracting the other gender is largely about sex... however, that doesn't necessarily mean that what they're about is trying to tag and bag women. There are ALOT of guys who are only in it to try and get tail and add another social notch to their belt, however, there are some people who are interested in pick up because they see it as another frontier for personal development, or they are trying to find someone who could be a potential long term partner. Becoming good at social interaction is the main focus of pick up, and is something very worth investing time into.

Having watched the blue print decoded I think you may be very surprised by what you would find there, Funchy. The PUA "guru" who ran the program has read echart tolle and has incorporated his teachings into what he believes. He has a healthy teaching that isn't about being something youre not to try to seduce women, but rather confidently being yourself to attract them. Its very focused on self confidence and being able to be real and move out of social conformity. Its very focused on liberating your mind and allowing yourself to act naturally and confidently.

I would just like to point out to all women who are negative towards this kind of thing, that women have been up to it for ages longer than men. Many women read cosmo/etc., talk with their friends about what works to attract guys, and wear make up to appear more youthful and prettier than they naturally are. Now, I know that all women do not do things like this (and just because the majority does it doesn't mean its right or healthy), but to me it just seems like the male form of what many girls do.

I will also agree with the idea of being VERY CAREFUL when deciding what materials you read and try to put into practice. Anything that seems to you like deception or manipulation probably isn't a good source. Anything that doesn't treat women like individuals or is about putting up some type of front to seduce women is equally unhealthy. If you do start lying and manipulating to get a woman's attraction #1 you won't feel good because you will know that they were attracted to someone who wasn't you and #2 you will start to suspect and distrust women because you will think that they are doing similar things.

01-03-2009, 06:05 AM	#12 (permalink)
Cultivate Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 35	Funchy, I entirely understand your viewpoint on PUAs because you see them as only being interested in sex. Obviously attracting the other gender is largely about sex... however, that doesn't necessarily mean that what they're about is trying to tag and bag women. There are ALOT of guys who are only in it to try and get tail and add another social notch to their belt, however, there are some people who are interested in pick up because they see it as another frontier for personal development, or they are trying to find someone who could be a potential long term partner. Becoming good at social interaction is the main focus of pick up, and is something very worth investing time into. Having watched the blue print decoded I think you may be very surprised by what you would find there, Funchy. The PUA "guru" who ran the program has read echart tolle and has incorporated his teachings into what he believes. He has a healthy teaching that isn't about being something youre not to try to seduce women, but rather confidently being yourself to attract them. Its very focused on self confidence and being able to be real and move out of social conformity. Its very focused on liberating your mind and allowing yourself to act naturally and confidently. I would just like to point out to all women who are negative towards this kind of thing, that women have been up to it for ages longer than men. Many women read cosmo/etc., talk with their friends about what works to attract guys, and wear make up to appear more youthful and prettier than they naturally are. Now, I know that all women do not do things like this (and just because the majority does it doesn't mean its right or healthy), but to me it just seems like the male form of what many girls do. I will also agree with the idea of being VERY CAREFUL when deciding what materials you read and try to put into practice. Anything that seems to you like deception or manipulation probably isn't a good source. Anything that doesn't treat women like individuals or is about putting up some type of front to seduce women is equally unhealthy. If you do start lying and manipulating to get a woman's attraction #1 you won't feel good because you will know that they were attracted to someone who wasn't you and #2 you will start to suspect and distrust women because you will think that they are doing similar things.