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I'm totally transfixed by this move, and I don't think that it has to end in failure. I as a woman often think that polyamory would be most preferable, though at the same time worry that A) that's having my cake and eating it too and B) it would too much destabilize my life. But I do wish this experiment luck, patience, and rewards.

one concern that I don't think Steve is fully acknowledging is the family concern. is it not inherently more risky and difficult to bring children into a poly relationship...there is such a thing as consenting adults, but shouldn't children have a say as to having two entirely focused parents? I think marriage isn't just as simple as law. marriage provides for the protected, concentrated upbringing of children. As a female my greatest concern is a promise on both parents' parts as to the providing of a stable upbringing. the institution of marriage is ripe for attack, but what about the more abstract institution of parenthood...?

p.s. I don't think Fred was boinking V and D in the back of the van...D's a lesbo. I also question this 100% straight thing...it seems as though that is a bit of a contradiction to the idea of expanding intimacy, and of it not all being about sexual attraction. I dislike the Game mentality and find it quite shallow and dehumanizing.