I've been harshing it up for a long time -- I was sort of raised that way.
But one thing I've learned in harshing people up over the years: reality is a mirror. Generally, if I feel an overwhelming urge to tell someone else something harshly worded, I'll apply that same advice to myself first. I'll ask myself when the last time was I was doing something similar.
The other day, I told Seeker he was being too easy on himself. The reality is, I take things too easy on myself frequently too. But I told him partially what I needed to hear.
Even right now, I'm telling you to be more mindful, and of course, mindfulness is certainly one of my own long term lessons as well. *Shrugs* You can't really escape it.
There is also a fine line between being polite and being an enabler. It's up to you where to draw that line. Sometimes you can bear bomb to wake them up, but if bombing people is all you do, that's not a good sign..
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