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AAX · 01-02-2009, 11:47 PM

hello everyone!

Here's my story:

My SIL and I haven't gotten along very well for about 10 years. In the beginning we were very close but as time went on and i believe as my career took off she has gotten more and more distant. She kind of has that "I'm better than everyone" attitude. She is constantly rolling her eyes when I speak, and acts like anything I say or do is ghetto and childish. She has literally turned into a B***h! I admit, because of her attitude I would kind of show off my success when she was around to sort of counter her "better than you" attitude, which I'm sure made things worst. One night we got along great. She came over while I was on my way out to shoot pool and she asked if she could go. I said sure! We drank beer, shot pool, laughed and had a good time. (BTW she never drinks) I was thinking maybe she isn't so bad after all! Well once we got home she asks my wife and I if she borrow money and we loaned it to her. After that evening we hardly her from her for 3-4 months. When she did come around she went back to her old ways!

Well, last week I happened to answer the phone and she asked what I was going to get her little sister for XMAS and said she didn't mind helping me go shopping. So we went shopping but afterwards I suggested lets stop and have a cocktail. She agreed. She and I drank a few and talked about our relationship and why she has been such a B***h towards me for so long. She said she hasn't been but I irritated her with my BIG MOUTH.

Anyways, we left the bar and I told her lets stop fighting with each other and give me a Xmas kiss on the cheek. And she did. In my opinion everything was innocent. As we came to a stop sign she told it my turn to give her a Xmas kiss. Well one thing turned to another and we ended up kissing and fondling each other. I'm confused and in disbelief due to her constant lack of affection for me all these years.

She been over a few times since then but nothing has happened. She's not flirty and goes on like it never happened. But she is no longer acting like she's all that anymore. When we did have a brief moment to talk she said that was something that should not have happened and i agreed. What's confusing me is that she has come over more since that incident than she has practically all year. In your opinion, is she coming over more frequently to be with me? And I still haven't gotten a clear understanding why she has behaved so poorly toward me in the past? Also, is this something she wants to continue?

01-02-2009, 11:47 PM	#1 (permalink)
AAX Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 3	shocked and confused. hello everyone! Here's my story: My SIL and I haven't gotten along very well for about 10 years. In the beginning we were very close but as time went on and i believe as my career took off she has gotten more and more distant. She kind of has that "I'm better than everyone" attitude. She is constantly rolling her eyes when I speak, and acts like anything I say or do is ghetto and childish. She has literally turned into a B*h! I admit, because of her attitude I would kind of show off my success when she was around to sort of counter her "better than you" attitude, which I'm sure made things worst. One night we got along great. She came over while I was on my way out to shoot pool and she asked if she could go. I said sure! We drank beer, shot pool, laughed and had a good time. (BTW she never drinks) I was thinking maybe she isn't so bad after all! Well once we got home she asks my wife and I if she borrow money and we loaned it to her. After that evening we hardly her from her for 3-4 months. When she did come around she went back to her old ways! Well, last week I happened to answer the phone and she asked what I was going to get her little sister for XMAS and said she didn't mind helping me go shopping. So we went shopping but afterwards I suggested lets stop and have a cocktail. She agreed. She and I drank a few and talked about our relationship and why she has been such a B*h towards me for so long. She said she hasn't been but I irritated her with my BIG MOUTH. Anyways, we left the bar and I told her lets stop fighting with each other and give me a Xmas kiss on the cheek. And she did. In my opinion everything was innocent. As we came to a stop sign she told it my turn to give her a Xmas kiss. Well one thing turned to another and we ended up kissing and fondling each other. I'm confused and in disbelief due to her constant lack of affection for me all these years. She been over a few times since then but nothing has happened. She's not flirty and goes on like it never happened. But she is no longer acting like she's all that anymore. When we did have a brief moment to talk she said that was something that should not have happened and i agreed. What's confusing me is that she has come over more since that incident than she has practically all year. In your opinion, is she coming over more frequently to be with me? And I still haven't gotten a clear understanding why she has behaved so poorly toward me in the past? Also, is this something she wants to continue?