Funchy, your post is an example about what I'm talking about. I will break it down. You took the time to read everything I said and write a heart-felt response, but you made quite a few assumptions. And you wrote many questions about things I didn't say or already addressed.
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Originally Posted by funchy  Why would someone post about an unresolved conflict if they didn't want others' suggestions? |
When did I say I didn't want other people's suggestions? I never said that. I am very grateful for suggestions that people offer.
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Originally Posted by funchy Why is it the assumption those giving replies are doing it only for ego? Or that every misunderstanding about a situation is because people are lazy and are giving quick, fake replies? That's really a negative view of fellow members, isn't it?  |
I didn't say everyone. I said that I see it a lot. There are plenty of great replies, and I don't assume that every reply is a quick, fake one. But it's not too hard to see when it is. If you look at my original post, it says, "Don't worry. Not everyone is doing this, but it happens much more often than I'd like."
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Originally Posted by funchy How can you judge others' real intentions? On behalf of the board members, I see a lot of good people giving their time, thought, and knowledge to help others. I think there are some great people here! Sure, misunderstandings happen, but isn't that the nature of the internet? I've only been here a little while and already I feel like I've made some good friends. I like it when people disagree with me; it makes me explore my own beliefs & knowledge further. I haven't had need yet to ask for a lot of advice, but if I did, I'm sure that I would get some great answers. There are some really smart, caring people here, and I don't understand why you're not seeing that? |
I can't judge other people's real intentions, and I don't try to. But it is obvious (to me) when something is not heart-felt. I also like when people disagree with me for the same reasons you do. I never said I didn't. I also mentioned that misunderstandings are bound to happen, but that there would be less if people read the original post more closely.
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Originally Posted by funchy You're frustrated because you feel people are being condescending; however, at the same time you say others are "fake", not "being ourselves", "playing" a role, and not a part of "humanity". Maybe you don't realize it, but by addressing an entire board and saying such things, these words sound a bit condescending. |
Now you are making many huge assumptions about me. How do you know exactly why I am frustrated? I knew this would sound condescending, that's why I said this may cause people to dislike me and would most likely offend people.
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Originally Posted by funchy I honestly don't understand this post. I see you're unhappy, but I am not sure what you'd prefer we do?  |
Just do your best to be conscious. I'm not unhappy, just a bit frustrated... that's all. But there's always room for improvement. I made this post to bring truth to the situation so that people could see what was happening.
Thank you so much for your time funchy, and I hope you understand it a little better now. I don't expect people to be perfect, so don't worry about that. Just do your best.