It depends what you are doing it for. If it's just to get notches on your bedpost then I do think it is manipulative. If you are using lines 'hey did you see the fight outside' when there was no fight then it is tricking people.
Eliciting someone's highest values, repeating them back to them with the sole purpose of bedding them and walking away seems seedy whichever way you look at it.
I don't have a problem with people boosting self esteem, learning how to flirt, learning out to be more attractive to others etc when it is all about being their very best self. In fact I would positively encourage that.
But learning a 5 step process and using 'tried and tested' lines on people seems manipulative to me.
|