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Originally Posted by jawillie  We just didn't see how sex with others would strengthen US. Infact, we saw it as taking away from what we have. |
That was the conclusion I came to, as well. But it turned out that it wasn't the sex that was the problem in my husband's and my relationship, it was the fact that we both had Borderline Personality Disorder, and we tended to both be terrified that the other one would leave us, so we tended to act like idiots, pushing the other away to "test" them, to see if they'd still love us after we treated them like crap. :-)
And, yes, that is why they call it "mental illness"!
My hope is that we'll manage to somehow be extraordinary, and end up
passing our tests. His version of the test is going on 1 and a 1/2 years now, and I think I'm passing, mostly. But he gave up trying to pass my test, for now, which really sucks for me.
Anyway, thanks for sharing your story. It's good to hear success stories in this world so full of disposable marriages. It gives me hope.
Peace, Love, and Bicycles,
Turil