[jawillie]

Been there done that. I am now free from it. It didn't happen over night. For me, the way to protect myself was to run at the slightest hint of anything being wrong in my relationship. I would not be made a fool.

At first I "faked it" ~ I made a motto of "don't let them see your insecurities." This worked on my outside reactions, what I portrayed to the world, however, obviously I still had the inner turmoil. I still recommend this, as it stops desctructive reactions on your part that will damage a relationship beyond repair. So when something came up that would make me feel jealous, I would remember, "don't let them see our insecurities" and put on the front of confidence instead of react in a way that showed jealousy ~ something that drives people away from you.

Over time I worked on the inside and I am now in a good place of genuinely not being a jealous person. I let go of the story of, "I can't be rejected." I now believe I can be rejected and it is OKAY if I am. It is OKAY if my husband leaves me. It may sound weird, but the freedom of truly believing that has changed me and it has brought us closer together.

What would happen if the wool was pulled over your eyes? How would you feel? Is it true you HAVE TO feel that way? You really don't. When I learned my thoughts are my only problem, I was free to choose differently. Then I am free to truly love because the fear of being made a fool is gone. If you are afraid to love, you aren't truly loving and you will get what you give ~ your partner will hold back and your fears will come true.

I really recommend trying The Work by Byron Katie.. she gives everything free on her website. She explains it all much better than I have. She truly helped me in this area!!