Whao, wait a second now -- hold on to those horses intarweb buddy!
Certainly, we are both aware that I'm not objecting to this on some moralist level.
And, I am definitely not in that whole pharisee-like, "naysayer" camp. Hell, I thought polyphasic sleep was nuts, but gave you a piddly little donation just to see if you could pull it off.
I think if two people
could make this work, you and Erin could, given that I've never physically met either of you. That's why I think it might work for a little while, but that's where the hubris kicks in -- as soon as things are okay the first time, boy its full-steam-ahead.
Its not a lense I'm looking through, its experience. I've been down this road more times than I'd like to count. The simple fact is, sex involves some
degree of attachment by its very nature. In the end, it is inevitable that somehow, somewhere,
someone in this whole thing
will get hurt. That's the only mystery -- and the answer is always a shocker. I'm not predicting doom and gloom, or even necessarily the end of your marriage...
I read through your logic, and I can see no holes. But, its just that, logic.
Deep down, part of you knows where this must lead, and that's
precisely why you wrestled with it for so long. After all, to quote the best movie of all time, "We are men of action, lies do not become us". But all that hesitation collapsed eventually against your desire, that wailing wondering. You weren't always awesome, but you became awesome and found your power. Now you actually want to give it a spin and get all that variety and pleasure you really wanted but couldn't access as your old self.
Don't get me wrong, I
applaud you. Its nice to see.
I just maintain that on this one, the scales were set between your want and potential gain on the one hand, and the potential risks to others on the other hand.
In the end, you picked you.
I feel like I should throw you a party or something...