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Holistic Star · 01-02-2009, 11:10 AM

This is the first post of Steve's that I've had a negative reaction to. Well not negative as such, but it's the first one that brought me up against my boundaries. After reading both posts I felt very anxious.

I actually had a nightmare about it last night. I woke up crying.

So what's the problem. It's not polyamoury - I don't have a problem with that. In fact when I was much younger I had a bf that I was happy to share and we talked openly about other people we fancied or were dating. I didn't feel jealous and can see that open marriages can work.

It's not religion. I don't have any religious creed to be offended. It's not moral, I don't have a problem with consenting adults having sex.

It's not even concern about Steve and Erin. I think they'll be fine.

I had two dreams last night. In the first one my two best friends (who are older than me and married) said they were going to kill themselves because they were enjoying life so much they realised they were having as much fun as they could ever have. I was crying with them and begging them not to kill themselves and saying it was madness to kill yourself because they had reached the peak of existence.

I woke up very upset and realised that this was about Steve and Erin rather than my friends. Steve is describing the best relationship ever, they connect, bond and are telepathic and yet it isn't enough for him. I think that's what upsets me most.

My next dream I wanted to talk to Erin but I couldn't find my shoes. When I did find them I couldn't walk back to her because the ground was thick spongey bracken and was holding me back. I woke up before I could find her. Not sure what this one means (do shoes represent something?), but it is obviously on my mind.

I realise this is about me and my reactions to the posts and nothing to do with the real Steve and Erin. I don't know or understand fully the reasons it has upset me in my dreams.

Coincidently I read The Game over Christmas and by the end of it felt sorry for the majority of PUAs. Most of them think that getting validation in the form of sex from women will somehow fill up this massive empty hole inside them. It doesn't.

01-02-2009, 11:10 AM	#132 (permalink)
Holistic Star Family Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 1,611	This is the first post of Steve's that I've had a negative reaction to. Well not negative as such, but it's the first one that brought me up against my boundaries. After reading both posts I felt very anxious. I actually had a nightmare about it last night. I woke up crying. So what's the problem. It's not polyamoury - I don't have a problem with that. In fact when I was much younger I had a bf that I was happy to share and we talked openly about other people we fancied or were dating. I didn't feel jealous and can see that open marriages can work. It's not religion. I don't have any religious creed to be offended. It's not moral, I don't have a problem with consenting adults having sex. It's not even concern about Steve and Erin. I think they'll be fine. I had two dreams last night. In the first one my two best friends (who are older than me and married) said they were going to kill themselves because they were enjoying life so much they realised they were having as much fun as they could ever have. I was crying with them and begging them not to kill themselves and saying it was madness to kill yourself because they had reached the peak of existence. I woke up very upset and realised that this was about Steve and Erin rather than my friends. Steve is describing the best relationship ever, they connect, bond and are telepathic and yet it isn't enough for him. I think that's what upsets me most. My next dream I wanted to talk to Erin but I couldn't find my shoes. When I did find them I couldn't walk back to her because the ground was thick spongey bracken and was holding me back. I woke up before I could find her. Not sure what this one means (do shoes represent something?), but it is obviously on my mind. I realise this is about me and my reactions to the posts and nothing to do with the real Steve and Erin. I don't know or understand fully the reasons it has upset me in my dreams. Coincidently I read The Game over Christmas and by the end of it felt sorry for the majority of PUAs. Most of them think that getting validation in the form of sex from women will somehow fill up this massive empty hole inside them. It doesn't.