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steveo4 · 01-01-2009, 10:58 PM

So I've never posted here before, so I feel like I should introduce myself. I'm a 25-year-old who feels stuck in a complete rut (and has felt that way for probably about 4-5 years). I've tried many different things to get out of this rut, but none of them have really worked. I was a lucky enough to make a decent amount of friends my senior year of high school, but since then...basically nothing. I didn't make any friends at college, and I haven't had any real luck with the 2 jobs I've had since then. Naturally, this weighs on me, and I feel like it weighs on me more and more as each year goes by. I feel that I'm a pleasant person with a good sense of humor, although I admit I can be a little quiet/awkward (especially around strangers). But I've been stuck in a rut for so long that I'm just not sure exactly what I can do. One thing I've considered is moving to a new city, but I'm not sure if that's the best idea. I just started a new job with a really good company and where I live currently (Boston) isn't exactly a small town, so I should have a decent number of social opportunities in front of me.

Some of my friends of my high school still live in the area, but they can be kind of insular, which really prevents me from meeting new people. On the rare occasions where I do go to parties, I feel like I do OK, but the opportunities are so few and far between, its rare to capitalize on them. I've never been in a relationship, which has something that's plagued me for a long time, and while I've taken some steps to change that (like online dating), it hasn't really changed anything. I have a good job, and own a condo in the city, so I feel like on a superficial level I have a decent amount going for me, but I haven't been able to translate that into a solid group of friends/girlfriend.

I've been trying for a while now to take steps to improve my life, but I feel like nothing has really worked. I imagine you guys have lots of different advice that I'd love to hear, which is why I'm making this post.

01-01-2009, 10:58 PM	#1 (permalink)
steveo4 Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 5	Starting over? So I've never posted here before, so I feel like I should introduce myself. I'm a 25-year-old who feels stuck in a complete rut (and has felt that way for probably about 4-5 years). I've tried many different things to get out of this rut, but none of them have really worked. I was a lucky enough to make a decent amount of friends my senior year of high school, but since then...basically nothing. I didn't make any friends at college, and I haven't had any real luck with the 2 jobs I've had since then. Naturally, this weighs on me, and I feel like it weighs on me more and more as each year goes by. I feel that I'm a pleasant person with a good sense of humor, although I admit I can be a little quiet/awkward (especially around strangers). But I've been stuck in a rut for so long that I'm just not sure exactly what I can do. One thing I've considered is moving to a new city, but I'm not sure if that's the best idea. I just started a new job with a really good company and where I live currently (Boston) isn't exactly a small town, so I should have a decent number of social opportunities in front of me. Some of my friends of my high school still live in the area, but they can be kind of insular, which really prevents me from meeting new people. On the rare occasions where I do go to parties, I feel like I do OK, but the opportunities are so few and far between, its rare to capitalize on them. I've never been in a relationship, which has something that's plagued me for a long time, and while I've taken some steps to change that (like online dating), it hasn't really changed anything. I have a good job, and own a condo in the city, so I feel like on a superficial level I have a decent amount going for me, but I haven't been able to translate that into a solid group of friends/girlfriend. I've been trying for a while now to take steps to improve my life, but I feel like nothing has really worked. I imagine you guys have lots of different advice that I'd love to hear, which is why I'm making this post.