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I know you can't reply to much on the forums but what advice would you give to an unmarried, 20-something man like myself? Or perhaps a better question, is what advice would you give your 20-year old self regarding this?
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Spend some time finding out why (you think) "almost all the negative replies are from women" without assuming that it's because they aren't "enlightened," because they're scared, or because they just don't understand the male sex drive. Spend some time finding out what both genders might (have) gain(ed) from being married (not necessarily in the legal sense, but more like why people band together in the first place). Spend some time thinking about things like guys not wanting to wear condoms because it affects their sensitivity and why women might feel resentful when guys want to galavant but women are expected to stay home and take care of the kids (i.e. are you willing to stay home and take care of the kids while the woman gets a chance to galavant?). There's more to polyamory than just fighting the status quo.
Spend some time pondering the difference between being against marriage because you have no interest in committing to anyone other than yourself (i.e. having multiple partners because one is a horny bastard, which I mean as lovingly as possible — we all have horny bastard moments... or eras...), and being pro polyamory because you have intense relationships with people you know well and yearn to take them further (and that feeling is mutual/accepted among all parties).