I agree with you both. I understand the frustration of dealing with arguerers, especially when much of the ideas have been pretty much explained, and many times they don't simply state their disagreement with an idea, they ask the same exact question, as if it's a new topic to discuss and argue again.
I pretty much by-pass these, and am drawn more to those who are genuinely wanting to compare notes, and ask questions, and are looking for tips that they can try out. An actual exchange of ideas.
So, I wouldn't want anyone to keep their opinions to themselves, as I can just not "take the bate", anymore.
Many of the arguers are good people, and this is just one aspect of a whole package. It's just their style, right now, and arguing serves them, they think anyway, somehow.
When they are ready, they will develope a greater variety of styles, and approaches to a subject. It's all in the process of self-developement. And that's a good thing.
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