I don't know if this is helpful, but I doubt that you'll ever find someplace that you truly feel like you are a part of. I'm also kind of the black sheep of my family (which is kind of the opposite of yours, as I'm the only nerd in the whole family), and was definitely the black sheep at my school in K-12 grade. But I went to a technology school, joined a fraternity, and thought that I'd found my place in the world. It wasn't to be, though. I evolved while the organization did not. So now I'm even more different than I started out being.
But as it turns out, rather than fitting in nowhere, I fit in everywhere. There is no one that you cannot connect with on a deep level if you allow yourself to. The connection doesn't come from them, it comes from you. Maybe your natural talents lie in places other than the rest of your family. It doesn't matter, really. Love isn't about other people, it's about you. It's your love for them, and they can't take it away no matter how little credit they give you.
I know that doesn't make you feel very powerful right now, and you think you're in a lot of pain. But when you stop hurting yourself on their behalf, you'll find that you are are amazing and don't need anything from anywhere else to be so. Your disadvantages may be your greatest advantage. Many people get trapped by their talents and success in situations that they don't feel they can get out of, and are never allowed out because the situations are supposedly "good." A cage made of money and power is much stronger than you would think, because it is clung to no matter how badly you want out. But you are much less likely to be trapped by success and good looks, and will probably see deeper and understand more about the truths of life than they can allow themselves to. You'll almost certainly always be the black sheep, but you'll get much better at it
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