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Originally Posted by Mjbrookerjr  I can kind of understand why she wanted to hang out with me. . |
You sure about that? It sounds to me like the reason she chose you to hang out with was that you desire her, and she needed to have her desirability validated.
Because your desire for her is obvious and palpable, you are not a good match for her for a loving, long-term mutually beneficial relationship (LLTMBR) like marriage. Her lesson now is to choose someone for whom her value is in question, and you just don't fit that bill. It's likely that even after she marries this other guy, she'll continue to use you for her self-value fix; she might even initiate an affair with you if she finds herself in a real self-esteem crisis.
Go ahead and participate in this game if you like; just please don't mistake that for an LLTMBR. You would be the one with the pain. I get the sense that maybe your real heart's desire is for a true romantic partnership -- one in which the woman is available to be forthright, generous, loving, and committed to you, and you to her. Right? If so, my recommendation is to let this stinky fish go and keep your eyes out for a healthier one.
Lots of love,
Angela