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Mjbrookerjr · 12-30-2008, 04:34 PM

I'm trying to get as many peoples opinions of this as I can, I've already formed my own opinion, but, it never hurts to have more, right?

I work in an office, we have two departments, inbound/outbound, I work in the inbound dept. There is this girl, in the other dept. Who I like alot, we started talking at work more, then outside of work, texting and all that jazz, for a couple weeks, I think she was leading me on, all flirty and all that. So we were supposed to hang out one night, go to a local resturant and get a couple drinks, so the day of the night we were supposed to hang out she told me her boyfriend didn't want her to hang out with me, so she had to cancel, whatever, no big deal to me. That was my deciding factor that hers and my relationship would just stay an interoffice relationship. She kept talking and flirting with me, I will not complain. Then one night she texted me asking what I was doing, I didn't think anything of it, I told her nothing, reading (The success principles great book) not really doing anything, she said she needed to go out, and asked if I wanted to get a few drinks.
So she picked me up. She was upset, I guess her and her b/f had a fight and she left, and chose me to hang out with over friends she's known for years. I've known her for only 5 months, tops. I'm flattered. I can kind of understand why she wanted to hang out with me. In my office everyone is always negative, and I'm always making them positive, making them think things they cannot think on themselves. So I think she needed some consolation. Within a half hour of us hanging out she said she felt TONS better. Then the rest of the night she was completely flirting with me...
So I figured, maybe her and her b/f were going to break up, so I played along with her flirt. Then over christmas he proposed to her, and she accepted, they've only known each other for 5 months, and he doesn't work.. while she busts her ass 40+ hours a week.
I want to be happy for her, but its hard, especially when she had led me on as much as she did, and the fact that 70% of all marriages end in divorce, and shes only known this guy for 5 months..
I've pretty much decided to leave well enough alone, and work on flirting with another girl lol! Am I in any sort of a wrong? I'm not going to completely disregard the relationship her and I established, but it will not be the same...

12-30-2008, 04:34 PM	#1 (permalink)
Mjbrookerjr Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Kent, ohio Posts: 21	A bit of advice? I'm trying to get as many peoples opinions of this as I can, I've already formed my own opinion, but, it never hurts to have more, right? I work in an office, we have two departments, inbound/outbound, I work in the inbound dept. There is this girl, in the other dept. Who I like alot, we started talking at work more, then outside of work, texting and all that jazz, for a couple weeks, I think she was leading me on, all flirty and all that. So we were supposed to hang out one night, go to a local resturant and get a couple drinks, so the day of the night we were supposed to hang out she told me her boyfriend didn't want her to hang out with me, so she had to cancel, whatever, no big deal to me. That was my deciding factor that hers and my relationship would just stay an interoffice relationship. She kept talking and flirting with me, I will not complain. Then one night she texted me asking what I was doing, I didn't think anything of it, I told her nothing, reading (The success principles great book) not really doing anything, she said she needed to go out, and asked if I wanted to get a few drinks. So she picked me up. She was upset, I guess her and her b/f had a fight and she left, and chose me to hang out with over friends she's known for years. I've known her for only 5 months, tops. I'm flattered. I can kind of understand why she wanted to hang out with me. In my office everyone is always negative, and I'm always making them positive, making them think things they cannot think on themselves. So I think she needed some consolation. Within a half hour of us hanging out she said she felt TONS better. Then the rest of the night she was completely flirting with me... So I figured, maybe her and her b/f were going to break up, so I played along with her flirt. Then over christmas he proposed to her, and she accepted, they've only known each other for 5 months, and he doesn't work.. while she busts her ass 40+ hours a week. I want to be happy for her, but its hard, especially when she had led me on as much as she did, and the fact that 70% of all marriages end in divorce, and shes only known this guy for 5 months.. I've pretty much decided to leave well enough alone, and work on flirting with another girl lol! Am I in any sort of a wrong? I'm not going to completely disregard the relationship her and I established, but it will not be the same...