This is my take on it, for what it's worth -
'Chasing' occurs thoughout the animal kingdom, not just humans.
The male chases the female, who runs away etc.
It is perfectly natural, and doesn't involve any dishonesty or manipulation on the part of the animals - They are just using their natural instincts.
There are very strong reasons why this behaviour occurs, both in humans and (other) animals.
In humans, a female who is more in touch with her natural feminine side / instincts / vulnerable side, will more naturally play the 'game'.
gc9, I would not play the game if I were you.
If a female has a natural instinct to play the game, they are able to play it with great sensitivity. If you do not really understand why you are playing it, then it will come across as 'artificial', and cause more harm than good, to the relatiionship. It needs great sensitivity to play the game well.
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Originally Posted by geekchic9  but I hate playing these sort of mind games. To me, they feel so fake. I value equality and fairness and openness in relationships. I feel uncomfortable "calling the shots" like my mom puts it and getting them to bend over backwards with their time, money, gifts, etc. It offends the feminist in me. I am not a manipulator or a gold digger. |
If you are 'uncomfortable' with playing a game (which you don't really understand instinctively), then it may be wise to go along with your feelings on the matter.
I would say that what you said gives little clues - You mention 'feminist', and 'equality' which indicates (to me) that you're not fully in touch (at this moment) with your femininity, and are perhaps too much in the head (to be able to play the game successfully)
Sorry about that, but honesty is the best policy in the long run, especially in this sort of forum!