He may feel like there is pressure on him to get together with you, but when he thinks you are pulling away he panics. I think that's childhood stuff, as opposed to gender stuff. It could be one or both of his parents made him feel obligated. I think the 'rules' approach will make this particular man panic and want to be with you, but it won't solve the real problem. You may have differing needs for space.
Another way would be to get sensitive to when this is coming up and create space for him without leaving him in the dark. 'I'm going to be tied up for the next few days, but if you would like to talk Monday next week I'll be around', 'I'll be in the next room, but will be back in 20 minutes' etc. Invite rather than ask.
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