There's a great book called "After the Affair, Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner has been Unfaithful."
It contains very helpful information for BOTH of you -- for you, looking at if and why it would make sense to either tell her or keep your secret, and to get insight into what was going on with you that you both broke your promise to her and covered it up -- like: is there something in the relationship or in your past that led you there, etc. For her, it will help her to feel less alone and confused, and to distinguish exactly what it is she needs YOU to do so that she can heal and thrive in a renegotiated relationship with you.
Good luck.
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