 Reconciliation and full disclosure
Long story short- six months ago my relationship ended with a woman whom I fully loved (and still love) because a few months before that I had essentially cheated (with an ex that I dated for 3.5 years - no physical contact, but I propositioned) and then covered it up... and then she found out (not from me). Yes, I was indeed a royal idiot, but I truly learned a lot about being a man, what love means, restraint, etc. from that experience.
Recently, still feeling guilty for my actions and for hurting her, I wrote her a letter saying once more that I was sorry for everything (and etc). Surprisingly she reengaged contact with me, forgave me, and I even hung out with her a few nights later. We've been talking pretty much every day since, and while I started out walking on eggshells, the issue of reconciling and getting back together has come up and is now apparently a definite possibility (she still has feelings for me too, albeit good and bad).
Onto the question this post begs- in the six months we were split up, I did in fact hook up with the girl whom I essentially cheated with (four times, the last at the very beginning of October). I was depressed, desperate, and this girl was available. Recently this girl and I mutually decided to permanently cut all ties because of the directions of our personal lives. I know that will never be an issue in the future, and that I will not repeat the same mistakes as before. However, if the woman I love and I reconcile, should I tell her about this? Obviously it's a bad idea to straight up confess about one's sexual past - such a confession is generally not invited or useful - but perhaps in this case it is an important piece of information for her?
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