its a good place to start basically getting aware of behavioral patterns.something which seems a fixed way of being might be a learned response.
your dad is aloof..why?
y kno we look carefully around and we start by examining 'others'
its fun "oh did you see that!? that was a poor me -intimidator exchange with joe an jane"

but go deeper.
we're all energy soakers.n we get it by hook or by crook
just observing exchanges is a first.
the book 'celestine an experiental guide' has got some exercises which might 'open' up new tracks of thought.
i liked the parental review.
like why we were born to these particular parents and what part of them do i have to carry forward and improve.
was pretty shook up after i did it took all out of me but it gave me a wonderful window into my own purpose n i also looked at em anew.
'who ARE these guys? iv known em my whole life and i kno NOTHING about em!'