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Originally Posted by Jose  Can you sign them with a stipulation of what you two discussed?
I would say make sure everything is in writing somewhere. Even though he might not be a fit enough parent to even have joint custody, you can avoid problems in the future by simply having a small blurb somewhere clarifying what "joint custody" means in this case.
And good riddance!! |
I second this. Have it in writing EXACTLY as promised, and signed by both, with witnesses on both ends. The last thing you want is for him to turn around and take the kids 'just cause'. It doesn't matter the gender but sometimes the 'other' parent will do silly things like take kids a couple years later to get back at the other, to use them in points for dating, and to screw with the kid's minds.
Imo, I'd fight it completely. A couple years of legal stuff is well worth possibly 10 more years of complications. Not to mention, him being out of state means he may decide to take the kids for a couple months rather than a weekend visit because driving so frequently is 'wasting' his money.
Get everything in writing. In triplicate. Put the original copy or at least a back-up in two safe locations (a friend and a bank box.)
If he wavers on ANYTHING, get that in writing too (police report, etc) so that you can use it along with the papers you already have to back you up.