| | ^^ if you find there is a problem
If you find there is a problem with your current outlook in life, you can choose to keep repeating it or make a change. If you want to make a change, make a small change, one step at a time till you accomplish your goal.
If you feel guilty with the things you do, step by step avoid doing it. If you do or don't like to keep distance with others? I think it's a trust issue. ^^ You will have to bare your soul to someone eventually, don't rush it and have fun.
Everyone has secrets, it's your right to keep yours.