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Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

Ugh... I agree that Russian isn't necessary (But I loooove it!! Waaaah *cry*). Learning to speak proper English isn't a distraction though. I write in English, my blog and eBooks and websites are in English, I just need English. And I'd like to meet fellow forum members and be able to communicate with them, too. As for Spanish, website #2 will be in four languages (French, German, English, Spanish) so I need it too! But you're right that it doesn't have to be in 2009. Maybe I can start with English and add more languages in 2010? (what a horrible thought. I want it all now )

Do you need to speak English perfectly in order to contribute to your websites?

Furthermore, time-wise, the most efficient way for you to be good at speaking English is to move to an English Speaking country. Then you'll be speaking English in no time.

My point is if you want to be self-employed and contributing, then you need to take a hard look at exactly what you feel you need to do in order to do that. If you feel you need to speak English good with people in order to be able to contribute on your website, then that's something you need to focus on as well. However, if you can get started on contributing on your sites without the need to converse fluently in English, then I say practice on English when you get a chance, but don't set it as a goal for now.

I've been invited there and I said I'd go. I'd love to meet the one who invited me, too. But it's true that it'll depend on my financial resources, and that means focus on career, right?

Yeah, I meant if you happen to have the opportunity to go, then go. To me, if I set something as a goal, it means it's something I have to focus on regularly and take action to make it happen. That's a distraction if it takes away from more important goals.

Perhaps you can simply set it as an intention, and then put it away and trust it'll happen without you having to take any action toward it. That way, it won't take away from your other focuses, and it may still happen.

I guess the Estonia goal is something that will happen if other things happen. Your website will not happen unless you put constant focus on it.

Interesting way of seeing it... I hadn't thought about it this way. Isn't building a particular habit a goal, too?

Yeah, but to me it's different. I see habits as something that supports a goal. For example, getting up early in the morning isn't something you do just for the sake of getting up early in the morning. you want to get up early in the morning so you can feel a lot of clarity and energy in the morning. So in truth, you really want to contribute and work on your sites and do more in your life, and getting up early in the morning is just a means to accomplishing that. So if you were to get up early in the morning and do nothing, then you wouldn't care to get up early in the morning. So to me, getting up early in the morning is a tool to help you achieve what you really want to achieve, not something you want to achieve just for its own sake.