This is a very complicated issues that affect many relationships. And her problem could have rooted back in her childhood and how she was nurtured in her adolescent years. I don't think you can help her by being critical or judgemental or angry. I agree with jaamkie that you must first accept and love her for who she is, then and only then that you can help her to improve her LSE. If not the best thing you can do for her is to leave and let her grow by herself. It may hurt her in the short term but will help her to grow better. When you have LSE, the last thing you need is someone who think that you are flaws and need improving.
I was like a door mat for many years in my previous relationship with a guy who always never think i was good enough and always need improving. It took me many years to build my SE with my now partner who constantly show me love and support regardless of who i am. That is the only environment where one can truly grow.
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