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Originally Posted by Jim11  Don't worry about trifles. Worry about how you're going to prepare yourself to be the best parent you can be |
Right - that's what I was trying to say! I apologize if my response was harsh - I was shocked, I think! I'm guessing, judging by your previous posts, that this was unplanned. I know for me, even though I loved kids, when I had an unplanned pregnancy it was a time of searching and fear and excitement and hoping and nervousness. I don't know if you're in the same space - I should have thought about that before I responded.
I am surprised that I'm not seeing more soul-searching about the pregnancy, considering your feelings toward kids, and your medication situation. It may just be that you're not working that stuff out here, in public - but your post just seemed so - certain! And asking about circumcision and natural childbirth, rather than:
What am I gonna do??
It took me about four months or so to know, really know, that I was ready to be a mom. I chose early on to not get an abortion, but adoption was a consideration. I spent SO much time in prayer and meditation, and seeking, and asking questions. Finally, at about 4 1/2 months, I looked in the mirror and thought: mama. And I just knew that I was going to raise this child. He's 16 now! And it's taken lots of willingness to grow on my part to be the best mom I can be - lots of healing. And like I said, I LOVED kids, I was already incredibly patient, and I wasn't on life-saving medication!
I'm sorry for my harshness earlier - it was a combination of surprise and judginess about your previous posts re kids.