Jess,
Don't worry about trifles. Worry about how you're going to prepare yourself to be the best parent you can be, especially when considering the quote posted above.
Circumcision? There is a lot of medical information indiciating circumcision would be a good choice. I'm not going to go into that, but if that's something you have to consider, then I suggest you just google it and do some reading.
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My questions to y'all is...is this fair for him to ask or is it just a hoop he's trying to get me to jump thru?
I know in the past I havent been able to keep a job for a year. my last one I kept for almost a year (2 months short of a year) before they fired me.
My bf says I have to do this before he will even consider marrying me. I say it should be for better for worse, job or no job. Hell, he's already given me a "promise ring" this year. We will be together 4 years this October 16. WTF gives?!
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Does leaving for maternity leave mean you have to start your 1 year of employment over?
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I was recently reading about a growing trend of ppl deciding not to have children when they marry--which is perfectly okay with me....I'm not going to judge them. I was wondering what the other advantages are and how you deal with the comments from others about how you "should" have children.....
I don't know if I want children or not. Its not that my BF would make a horrible father or anything, its just that I like my peace and quiet. Not to mention all of my friends and family members who have children already look overworked, stressed, and unhappy. I don't know if I want that!
Also I take a medication that can cause severe birth defects and even death in unborn children. Its an antiseizure medication and I don't want to switch off it to another medication because this medication has gotten my seizures under control where I have been seizure free since 1999...I don't want to risk lowering seizure threshold just to experiment to see if a medication works or not....
Also Ive heard horror stories of sleepless nights. My seizure threshold is more at a dangerous level when I have lack of sleep. Also the crying and attention that children require day in and day out don't appeal to me that much at this point in my life. I also don't want to be in the position of the threat of divorce after the last child graduates high school like my father did to my mother and me....(long story, don't ask, I will explain in a different thread)
It seems to me that ppl married with no children may actually be happier and have less divorce rates than their baby fever counterparts.
The way I see it, I've reincarnated on this earth X number of different times, which I am guaranteed that atleast half or more of those times I had children. So what difference does it make??
I also don't like dealing with bratty unruly children...the well behaved kind are a different story....I don't mind the well behaved kind...but the bad behaved kind.....lets just say I don't like being around the bad behaved kind.....
Any advice?!
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what are you getting yourself into?