I'm sorry you're feeling so down. I know it can be hard to imagine yourself climbing out of the depths of sorrow, but it will happen for you.
Based on what you shared, I think the most important thing to do is start thinking hard about what YOU want. Comparisons, other people's opinion, etc, you will eventually realize that these things aren't worth your time.
Obviously your family's "system of ranking" isn't working for you. How about making your own system of ranking based on things that are important to you?
I also think it's important to embrace your loneliness. Develop strength and independence while making an effort to meet new people that fit well into your life.
When I was younger I moved a fair bit and felt incomplete when I didn't have close friends, or especially when I didn't have a partner. But after some time (a long time, it seems...) I have come to realize that I need no one except myself, and that all other people in my life are bonuses.
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