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LordSappington · 12-23-2008, 01:39 AM

I have been invited to a New Years party this year, but I'm not sure if I should go. Here's the background, with the names changed as always

I befriended this girl, Laura, a while back. I met Laura's friend Rebecca through the course of hanging out with Laura. I ended up being invited to Rebecca's New Years Eve party, and I was very excited because it was the first time that I had ever been invited to one of those. I showed up, and it was Laura and Rebecca and all their friends. They're all classical musicians, and they knew each other, and they were talking about music, so I was not only clueless as to the history of their group, but also, I don't know too much about music. I thought I managed well though.

Anyhow, a few weeks later, Rebecca was throwing another party and she sent out invitations for it on Facebook. In my Facebook feed, it said "Laura is attending Rebecca's party." I went to go look at the RSVP list for the party, and it was all the people from New Years. Except I was never invited.

So I asked her straight up why, and she replied, "You didn't seem to have much fun at the last one." I wasn't sure how to take that, but I interpreted it as, "I think you're a downer. Stay away." I was reasonably offended.

So I pretty much stopped talking to the girl. It's not like we talked very much anyhow, but I wasn't going to make an effort to stay in contact with her, and she never made any effort in staying in contact with me. About a year later, I was hanging out with Laura and (unbeknown to me) Rebecca was invited too. She walks up to me and says in a very cheery voice, "How the hell are you?" It was as if she had never snubbed me before. We talked for a bit, and that was the last time I heard from her.

Anyhow, now I'm invited to her party again on New Years. I have no other plans. It's either her party, sit at home alone, or go out by myself to try to find something. I sort of want to go because those people were sort of fun. But I don't want to go because I don't feel welcome. What should I do?

12-23-2008, 01:39 AM	#1 (permalink)
LordSappington Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 166	New Years dilemma I have been invited to a New Years party this year, but I'm not sure if I should go. Here's the background, with the names changed as always I befriended this girl, Laura, a while back. I met Laura's friend Rebecca through the course of hanging out with Laura. I ended up being invited to Rebecca's New Years Eve party, and I was very excited because it was the first time that I had ever been invited to one of those. I showed up, and it was Laura and Rebecca and all their friends. They're all classical musicians, and they knew each other, and they were talking about music, so I was not only clueless as to the history of their group, but also, I don't know too much about music. I thought I managed well though. Anyhow, a few weeks later, Rebecca was throwing another party and she sent out invitations for it on Facebook. In my Facebook feed, it said "Laura is attending Rebecca's party." I went to go look at the RSVP list for the party, and it was all the people from New Years. Except I was never invited. So I asked her straight up why, and she replied, "You didn't seem to have much fun at the last one." I wasn't sure how to take that, but I interpreted it as, "I think you're a downer. Stay away." I was reasonably offended. So I pretty much stopped talking to the girl. It's not like we talked very much anyhow, but I wasn't going to make an effort to stay in contact with her, and she never made any effort in staying in contact with me. About a year later, I was hanging out with Laura and (unbeknown to me) Rebecca was invited too. She walks up to me and says in a very cheery voice, "How the hell are you?" It was as if she had never snubbed me before. We talked for a bit, and that was the last time I heard from her. Anyhow, now I'm invited to her party again on New Years. I have no other plans. It's either her party, sit at home alone, or go out by myself to try to find something. I sort of want to go because those people were sort of fun. But I don't want to go because I don't feel welcome. What should I do?