Just a question, but I'm curious if part of your attraction is the low self esteem, or rather, the fact that she will accept your judgements opinions ideas without challenging them? Relationships generate all of these patterns of thought and behavior that we don't realize are leading to the very issues we're complaining about. The very fact that you're here discussing and diagnosing your gf's issues... how would you feel if she were on a message board diagnosing and plotting actions to change you? I think the best place to start is usually with yourself, not with someone else's imperfections- find a way to live happily accepting her as she is, or else break up with her, because you're doing her no favors to stay while criticising her for low self esteem.
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