The biggest and best thing that you can do is to focus on being loving. Keep the negativity to a minimum. Even if these people are negative and poopy, they're being the best people they know how to be at this point in thier lives, and that should be respected.
Yeah, dying friendships aren't pretty. I'm in the middle of a whole slew myself. I'll tell you what...you may also want to do something tangible to mark these endings. Write these people letters that include everything that ever made you upset, then burn or rip them up. Or, an old friend of mine had me do this: you take a piece of paper and write a letter to the person you want to let go of. Make certain that the letter is positive, not accusatory! Wish them well in the end; say that you want them to find love, new friends, positive experiences, etc. Roll the paper up, wrap it in white yarn or string, and place it in a window for three full days and nights. At the end, throw it away or burn it. I've done it before, and it worked!
*hugs!*
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