View Single Post
Old 12-22-2008, 06:08 AM   #1 (permalink)
Ezekiel2517
Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2008
Posts: 52
Ezekiel2517 is on a distinguished road
Default Eye Contact: A case of Dominate or be Dominated?

Making eye contact with people until they look away makes me very nervous so I have avoided it all my life. Recently I started experimenting with this to see what would happen and I have been shocked at the results. It seems that the majority of people are aware of the importance of eye contact and do not want to be the first to look away!

I have to stare at most people for about 10 seconds until they submit. I feel very ashamed of doing this, like I'm a big bully. I actually feel even worse when I 'win' the competition. This just feels SO wrong, but at the same time I've realised that there has to be a winner and a loser when two people first meet; that is, someone has to look away first. I believe that this is the way humans establish dominance.

As I mentioned in a previous post, I have been bullied and treated with disrespect all my life. Since I started to stare at people until they look away, the bullies have backed off and I can sense that some people have more respect for me. I am very uncomfortable with this, however, because I am essentially dominating others for my personal gain. But I do not see any other option; I really feel it is a case of 'dominate or be dominated'. I would be interested to hear what other people think of this from a regular perspective, though I do have a feeling that I might be better off asking this question from a spiritual point of view.

Thanks for you time.

Last edited by Ezekiel2517; 12-22-2008 at 06:21 AM.
Ezekiel2517 is offline   Reply With Quote