Lets say she comes to you and says "Well yesterday I felt bad when you did X" you might respond like "Oh I'm sorry about yesterday, but now I owe you and have make this moment the most enjoyable possible for you."
But it isn't about the words in that sentence but about the leadership aspect.
Accepting that mistakes lead somewhere and have consequences instead of trying to explain mistakes away.
I know personally that behaving like that is hard and I don't behave often that way. It's however the way that human interaction works according to the NLP model.
Responsibility is about the ability to make mistakes and learn from the feedback that those mistakes produce like an adult.
When you say "sorry" it seems to her like you want to excuse your mistake.
Responsibility creates meaning in human interactions. If you totally believe that your words mean something and say "feel happy", it does something to other people.
When you are totally certain of the outcome and take full responsibility for your results "magic" can happen through NLP.
Otherwise you can learn patterns of words without doing much of anything.
Meaning creates emotions.
That way is hard. You probably won't be able to take full responsibility for everything in your life overnight.
You might still do something and be lucky that she still feels something for you.
The hard way also happens to be the road of personal development, the road of taking responsibility for your life.
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