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tstesen · 12-20-2008, 11:24 PM

I just phoned my ex and asked him about this joint custody deal. I asked him what he's expecting out of joint custody. He said nothing more than we have going right now.

He said he'd like to be able to visit his son which is fine by me. He acknowledged the fact that he couldn't get sole custody even if he wanted because of his legal past as well as the child support arrears. He also said "Don't take this the wrong way but I don't want him to live with me. I don't have room for him."

So that put a lot of my fears to rest. I told him I didn't want him popping up and asking that our son live with him 6 months out of the year or something like that.

I'm leaning more towards just signing the papers as is.

I also called my best friend of 14 years and asked her what she thought. She said to just sign them. She knows I've been waiting for this day FOREVER.

12-20-2008, 11:24 PM	#4 (permalink)
tstesen Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Pueblo West, CO Posts: 141	I just phoned my ex and asked him about this joint custody deal. I asked him what he's expecting out of joint custody. He said nothing more than we have going right now. He said he'd like to be able to visit his son which is fine by me. He acknowledged the fact that he couldn't get sole custody even if he wanted because of his legal past as well as the child support arrears. He also said "Don't take this the wrong way but I don't want him to live with me. I don't have room for him." So that put a lot of my fears to rest. I told him I didn't want him popping up and asking that our son live with him 6 months out of the year or something like that. I'm leaning more towards just signing the papers as is. I also called my best friend of 14 years and asked her what she thought. She said to just sign them. She knows I've been waiting for this day FOREVER.