Vincent
Thanks for starting this thread. Whilst I agree with the principle of positive self talk, RRR does bring in an important point with the use of language. By making emphatic, black and white statements you end up falling into the same unhelpful thinking patterns as using "never" or "always"
To build self esteem with positive statements, or positive affirmations, I use things that are not variable. For example:-
"I have a wonderful family
We live in a fantastic house in a great location"
This reminds me of what is good about my life.
As a variation on keeping a journal, at the end of each day write down three (or more) things you are pleased about that you have done that day. You can change the word “pleased” to proud of, happy about, or whatever suits you. But ensure it enables you to come up with this short list of positives.
It comes back to getting into good habits that suit you.
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