I was frothing around the mouth...
...because it looked like you wanted to use him (and I'm still not convinced you don't, but it's not any of my business, I'm only frothing around the mouth here in public because you asked for opinions.). it's not a point of accepting some help from a man you're in a relationship with, it's a point of speaking about that man and the sincere help he offers as 'if he's dumb enough, why shouldn't I', especially when you know in the past this man has been used for money.you basically called him an idiot in front of all of us, and you wonder why I doubt your affection? I could be wrong, and this all could be a misunderstanding but when I sum everything I see here, expressions like sugar daddy and all that...yeah. my unenlightened side kicks in.
..because you are willing to do this and perpetrate the image of women as the ones that need to be taken care of. not just by doing, but also by the way you talk about it. I can see this doesn't worry you in the slightest, and I'm not even saying it's your responsability towards the female gender, but it angers me. it just prolongs the problem, the chauvinism, the oppression. it may be all a silly little idea to you, but where I live THAT IS VERY REAL.
...because I could understand you needing some help with groceries, or even with your tuition, but to have him give you money to start a business too? and NOT offer to give him some sort of partnership or investor status?
...because after all of what I listed, you call yourself a very independent woman. this part insults me personally. as I said, my unenlightened side just kicks in.
now, if I'm totally wrong about everything, then you do have my honest apologies. if this is the case, then just please change the way you talk about it, cause it's not painting you in a true light. and I take everything back except for the part that you're not independent. even if you're the nicest girl ever, I'm sorry, but if your boyfriend pays for your groceries, your tuition and the start up of your business, no matter anyone's intentions, you are simply not independant of him.
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