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soapbox011 · 12-19-2008, 07:24 PM

I feel for you... I too struggle at times with my past actions...

Sometimes you can't change the past. Usually time can cure things, but not always. This is tough for people to understand, especially in our fast paced and to-the-point lifestyle.

All you can do is accept your mistakes for what they were... cruel and selfish patterns. You have to accept that you made these mistakes. You also have to acknowledge that the person that committed such horrible things isn't you anymore... you are different now, and you have changed over the last 5 years and you can never see yourself stealing or taking advantage of people again. Once you have accepted that you have changed and that you are better than what you were, you have achieved personal growth in the right direction.

Call your old friends and ask for their forgiveness. If they don't accept that is fine too... they have the right to do whatever they wish. But in the same time don't get depressed because of it because you did whatever you could have done.

As long as you know now that 'other guy' is gone and that you tried your best to mend relationships and have accepted your mistakes... you should not feel guilty anymore, and rather work harder on what you want in the present and the future.

Good luck buddy.

12-19-2008, 07:24 PM	#2 (permalink)
soapbox011 Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 11	I feel for you... I too struggle at times with my past actions... Sometimes you can't change the past. Usually time can cure things, but not always. This is tough for people to understand, especially in our fast paced and to-the-point lifestyle. All you can do is accept your mistakes for what they were... cruel and selfish patterns. You have to accept that you made these mistakes. You also have to acknowledge that the person that committed such horrible things isn't you anymore... you are different now, and you have changed over the last 5 years and you can never see yourself stealing or taking advantage of people again. Once you have accepted that you have changed and that you are better than what you were, you have achieved personal growth in the right direction. Call your old friends and ask for their forgiveness. If they don't accept that is fine too... they have the right to do whatever they wish. But in the same time don't get depressed because of it because you did whatever you could have done. As long as you know now that 'other guy' is gone and that you tried your best to mend relationships and have accepted your mistakes... you should not feel guilty anymore, and rather work harder on what you want in the present and the future. Good luck buddy.